Hey There
I am so honored you are here. I want you know you are not alone. The feelings of hurt, overwhelm, and frustration. I know these words all too well and these are not meant for us to live in. You deserve better and I can help you get there.
Healing is a journey not a destination...
Hi, I am Melissa, I am a recovering codependant, empath, people pleaser, and an abuse survivor.
I spent 30 years living my life for everyone but me. I was worn out,
completely overwhelmed by even the smallest tasks, and had no idea what I liked or who I even was. I felt so alone and tried to fill my life with projects of fixing others to avoid my own hurts and unhealthy patterns.
I was so uncomfortable in my own body and was in a constant state of survival. I felt like I was living in the shell of my body.
I knew this was not the life that was meant for me. I deserved the love, happiness, and peace I craved.
I grew up with a mother who had fallen to addiction, raised alone by my father, and a family who did not show emotion. I learned at an early age if I wanted something I needed to provide it for myself. I found myself in unsafe relationships time and time again and spent 12 years in an abusive marriage.
This created unhealthy patterns of trauma bonding, empathic thinking, and codependency.
I was so desperate for a change, I knew God had a bigger purpose for me, I just had no idea how to get there. I spent years reading all the books, listening to all the podcasts, and learning all the reasons why I was the way I was.
I became angry and frustrated because all of my learning was not bringing much change to my life and how I was feeling. Changes finally started when I realized I needed to heal my body along with just my mind.
I needed to calm my nervous system, learn what real safety felt like, and put the work into all of me.